Dear Thomas,

When you get older, you are going to experience a lot of overwhelming and sometimes harsh things in life. You are going to realise that some people do not accept you for you, and that they will try to break you. They will do this by criticising the littlest of things about you: your mannerisms, the way in which you dress, your music taste, and a lot of things that you cannot see for yourself yet – the most important one being your sexuality. There will be times when you feel like what they say is true, and that in some ways you deserve it. There will be times when this will result in you telling yourself constantly that you are the one to fail – that you will always be the loser, that you will never be part of the crowd, that being you is wrong.

However, when the time comes, you must remember that you are better than you think. Life is too short, and by constantly trying to be something you are not, you are not living your life properly. You do not have to be the best on XBOX Live or be the best at football to fit in with other boys. In reality, fitting in with “the in crowd” and being “one of the lads” is not the path for you to go down. Moreover, the things that they see in you as being not normal, will be the things that the real good-hearted people grow to love about you. What’s more, if you cannot love yourself, then how in the hell are you going to love somebody else? This is a real quote from a famous American drag queen named RuPaul (yes, a drag queen), that you will cherish in the future, believe it or not, when you become a fan of the American drag queens from RuPaul’s Drag Race.

If you do not believe that you can do it, then you will not do it. Dreams cannot work unless you do. If you want to go and see the likes of Lady Gaga and Beyoncé in concert, then do it without letting anyone questioning your music tastes. If you want to study for an English degree at university, then work hard for it and prove those who do not believe in you wrong, (including yourself). Most importantly, if there are a group of people who you think you will get along with as friends, then for God’s sake go over and make conversation with them, even if it is just a simple hello. No one can judge you harshly for that.

Finally, do not think you are the worst human being in the world for being homosexual. It was never your choice to be homosexual, but it was a choice for people to mistreat you for it. Be proud of who you are, and never worry about telling anyone with the fear that you will continue to be an outcast. When you are sat in the upper tier of the Manchester Arena watching a Lady Gaga concert, you will realise this, and the only way is up from that moment on.

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